Some people would say that's our fault. We don't stick up for ourselves. We don't push our ideas or opinions. If we only asked to be represented like normal people, we wouldn't have that problem.
Sometimes it's not that easy. There are depressed shygirls, shyboys with social anxiety disorder, and all kinds of shypeople who are just that -- shy. We don't feel comfortable talking to you first. We don't feel comfortable giving presentations, or standing up for ourselves, or standing up at all.
And we need help. I'm not saying that everyone who's shy needs professional help. Introverts and quiet people are lumped under the "shy" description with people are mentally ill and can't help their silence. (As a note, I am both fairly introverted and suffering from a delightful combination of depression and social anxiety disorder, and so I like to think I have some experience with both sides.) There are a lot of people who are perceived to be "just shy," and that's a problem.
You can't write us off as "shy." Some of us don't want to be "shy." Some of us don't want to be treated as "shy." Some of us are only "shy" in certain situations and can seem like a completely different person around our friends and family.
But the problem is this: shy is a useful description. I think of it as somewhat like the term "queer." It's a word that describes a whole host of people who are somewhere outside the "norm;" in this case, the norm being loud.
It's not good to divide the world into loudgirls and shygirls, but for the purposes of this blog, that's where we are.
love, shygirl <3
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